New research shows that women use the ‘it’s not you it’s me’ approach when ending a relationship rather than telling the truth.
It’s typically men that are seen to be the commitment-phobes but now women are using the line ‘I’m not ready for commitment’ to end relationships they don’t want to be in.
The research found that women are much more likely to let a man down gently with their break up lines with men preferring to get straight to the point.
The research also uncovered that women are much more likely to be driven by how much a man earns.
The line ‘You don’t earn enough money’ was the third most popular line for women yet it didn’t feature in the men’s top 10 at all.
For men, physical attraction and sexual ability are big priorities, with a large percentage of men choosing to dump their partner because they are no longer attracted to them or because they lack sexual chemistry.
The most popular break up lines are:
1. I am not ready for commitment yet
2. This is going too fast for me
3. You don’t earn enough money
4. You are not mature enough
5. I need to concentrate on my career
6. I don’t like your friends or family
7. It’s just not working
8. We are not going to get married, so what’s the point?
9. We have not got enough in common
10. I don’t trust you
1. It’s just not working
2. I’ve met someone else
3. I’m not attracted to you any more
4. We’ve lost that sexual spark
5. It’s not you, it’s me
6. I need to concentrate on my career
7. We want different things
8. I don’t want to see you any more
9. I am not ready for commitment yet
10. We have not got enough in common
SeekingArrangment.com found that both men and women admitted they like to end a relationship face-to-face but increasing amounts are using text and email.
Just over half of women would meet with their partner to end it whilst just under half of men would do the same.
Harley Street dating and relationship expert Louise Van Der Velde said, “Relationships work when one whole person attracts another whole person. If you’re giving 50 per cent, and the other is giving 50 per cent, it’s not going to work.
“Both of you need to commit to giving the relationship no less than 100%. And I think it’s so healthy for people to be honest about their expectations in a relationship. Work out what you want, and don’t settle for less.”