There are two primary phases in most people’s sex lives—the sex you have before you get into a relationship, and the sex you have after. Since the latter phase is usually not the one we brag about to friends at brunch, let’s try to change that, shall we? Improve your sex life in any relationship by giving these sex tips for couples a try.
1. Tip- Do That Thing He’s Always Begging You to Do
Most men are pretty vocal about their sexual fantasies. It’s the male equivalent of our nagging them to pick up their socks. Does your guy really, really want you to dance for him? Try anal sex? Dress up like a French maid, perhaps? Since you’re the only woman he’s allowed to have sex with and all, it’s worth a try!
2. Tip- Try Any Position You’ve Never Done Before
Doing new things together is a bonding experience, and let’s be honest—it’s probably been a while since either of you did something new in bed. Just throw out a sex position, or ask him if there’s one he’s never tried, and go for it. Best case? Someone loves it. Worst case? You have a good laugh.
3. Tip- Leave Your Underwear at Home on Date Night
OK, it’s a little cheesy. But it’ll make your typical routine of sharing the burrata appetizer at your neighborhood Italian restaurant a little more fun. As you’re leaving home, as you’re walking in, or as you’re sitting down, just let him know. And wear a body-con dress and heels so he can fantasize about the easy access.
4. Tip- Have Sex When You Don’t Really Feel Like It
Let me be clear: Never do anything you really don’t want to do. However, relationships are about compromise, so if you’re turning him down more than you’re turning him on, you might consider some pro bono (he-he!) sex once in a while. It will go a long way in your relationship, because once a guy feels neglected or rejected, he might stop trying to do all those things you like too.
5. Tip- Treat Him Like a Sex Object Sometimes
What kind of sex do people have during affairs? The kind of sex where clothes get ripped and lamps get broken. A lot of people crave that kind of passion, which we all know is hard to maintain when you’ve slept together literally hundreds of times. So consider it an investment in your monogamy and treat him like the jerky-but-so-hot football player you wanted just one night with in college and take the guy. He’ll like it, promise.