Trying to decide whether to delve into online dating? We can help you work it out. There is no doubt that the advances in technology in the last 20 years have changed society and culture. We live in a world today that would have been impossible to foresee less than a half century ago, and many of these changes have been wrought by computers and connectivity.
One of the areas of our lives where these technological transformations have been especially striking is in the dating scene. Use of the Internet has changed the way we date, offering both positive and negative consequences.
1. PRO: No more bars. One of the best changes is in the way that potential daters meet each other — you don’t have to go out to the bar scene unless you really want to. By using online dating services and perusing profiles, you can read about a person, see them in photos and videos, hear their voices and make a judgement based on all of that information. Having this knowledge is far superior to meeting someone in a bar or any other random location for that matter because you know from the start what you’re getting into.
2. PRO: Lots to choose from. Using dating services online and forums like chat room and so on, you have a plethora of opportunities and a wide range of choices when it comes to finding a partner. Potential dates used to be a real crap-shoot and chances weren’t always good that you would roll a winner. Having a guaranteed variety of choices is a wonderful change from the old days of dating when it used to be hard just to meet people in general let alone to meet potential partners.
3. PRO: First dates are great. With the Internet and all of the information it can provide, those so-called “first date jitters” will be no more. OK, you still may be nervous, but after getting to know a person online or talking to them on the phone, your in person first date should be a welcome event. No more drinking too much to get rid of nerves and no more wondering what terrible situation you have gotten yourself in to.
CON: Online dating sucks into your time
If you are not careful, like any online activity, such as Twitter or Facebook, online dating can easily suck up your time, and other important areas of your life can suffer if you let it happen.
It is important to set a time limit for browsing online dating sites and responding to messages so that you can balance out your life and feel good about dating online.
CON: People are not accurate in their online dating profiles
Beware of people exaggerating their attributes in their online dating profiles. Be especially aware of the fact that photographs are not always a good likeness of the actual person. When you enter the online dating world you become a product and you have to sell yourself, it is tempting for people to lie in order to attract more interest and increase their chances of getting a date.
Don’t be surprised if when you meet up in real life with someone you have met online you find that he isn’t exactly what you expected. Ask for more pictures to get a better idea of what he looks like, and invest on some online chatting time in real-time to see how the conversation flows before you agree to meet up.
CON: You may come across some undesirables
Not everybody is dating online for the right reasons. You are bound to come across some idiots who waste your time, lie, and who are disrespectful.
Online dating is an opportunity for perverts to chat with women in an inappropriately sexual manner. It is also a way for dirty old (and young) men to pass time. You can try to avoid these types of men by only going online at certain times of the day. Avoid late evenings.