Gone are the days when online dating was considered for “losers who can’t find love in real life”.
Gone are the days when sleazy perverts were the only kind of men you’d meet online. It’s no longer frowned upon and you no longer have to hide the fact that you met your sweetie on a dating website.
Online dating has transformed for the better and is actually one of the more common ways to meet someone new.
So, if you want to explore the world of online dating, here are some tips to always remember.
1. Make a real profile
Imagine hitting it off with someone online and meeting him finally, only to realize that instead of Ryan Gosling from Crazy, Stupid, Love, he actually looks like the older Ryan Gosling from Blue Valentine.
No one likes a misleading profile picture. I know you’d like to believe that you look the same as you did ten years ago but that’s not true. So please upload recent, non Photoshopped pictures and keep your profile amazing but real.
2. Picture guidelines
If you’re looking for a serious relationship, it’s best to avoid drunken pictures from your last clubbing fiasco. Of course, you want to look attractive but there is a fine line between attractive and trashy.
3. Variety is the spice of online dating
The internet is so vast that you simply cannot restrict yourself to one website and hope to find your soulmate there.
Join as many websites as you have time for. Sign up on at least two mainstream websites and while you’re at it, pick one or two niche dating websites based on your interests.
4. Don’t be afraid to make the first move
You’re not in the dark ages anymore. See a man you like? Don’t hesitate to make the first move by sending him a message.
Keep it short, personal (no one likes a generic message), intriguing (in a good way) and fun. Men love a woman who exudes confidence!
5. S is for Stalking
Stalking someone online is so easy these days (scary but true) and while it may be a good idea to look him up (you never know what you’ll find), try to avoid stalking him on every social platform.
After all, a little mystery doesn’t hurt, right?
6. Don’t pin all your hopes on one person
Think of this as a virtual speed dating service. You can’t send one message to one person and wait forever to hear back because then you’ll probably end up looking for love till you’re 60.
Always keep your options open. Go through multiples profiles, screen them, and cut them down until you have a handful.
7. Stay safe
No matter how perfect he seems, one can never be too careful. Don’t give out personal information and obviously don’t send money to anyone you don’t know.
Meet him in a public place that you know well. Let a good friend know where you are. Don’t get drunk!
8. Get ready to reject and be rejected
If you don’t feel a connection in real life, don’t drag it on. Be honest and tell him that you’ve had a wonderful time getting to know him but you just don’t feel the spark.
He may get offended but he will appreciate the honesty.
At the same time, don’t take rejection to heart. There really are other fish in the sea, cupcakes in the bakery, shoes in the store (you get the drift).
9. Patience is a virtue
Dating in general needs patience and the rules are the same for online dating. You will come across some creeps, perverts, and jerks.
Be patient, be smart and don’t let a bad experience bog you down. Believe and you will find love one day!
10. If you hit it off with someone…
So you’ve been chatting with this cute guy for a couple of days and the two of you really seem to have a lot in common. What now?
Experts say that you shouldn’t put off meeting him for too long. Often, we end up investing too much time, emotions and energy on a virtual entity only to realize that you don’t have the same kind of chemistry in real life.